It all started when I was fifteen.
I was mesmerized by the strength, power and endurance of a young woman who taught spinning at the local Lifetime Fitness.
I would hear her voice booming in the room adjacent to the kickboxing room as I waiting for my class to begin.
Midway through kickboxing I would look out the window of the spin room empty as people crawled out of the spin classroom dripping with sweat, literally red in the face. I wondered what they could possibly be doing on a bike for an hour to make them so sweaty.
Surely I wasn’t athletic enough to handle that.
I sucked at cardio and endurance but was determined to tackle it head on.
Scared, nervous and afraid I would possibly not make it out alive I mustered up the guts to take my first spin class that summer…I wanted to see what it was all about.
In order to make sure I lived through the first one, I took a shortened 40 minute class with a new instructor who looked like a ballerina (it was rumored to be the easiest one).
I lived (despite how incredibly hard it was) and I was hooked on spinning after trying it about to more times (I had heard my idol tell a new client that you have to try it four times before you know if its for you or not).
With a few classes down I had the courage I needed to take my idol’s class.
Before you knew it I was a regular.
I was the only teen in the 5:30 am classes and the only one under age 24 for that matter.
I began regularly taking spinning before I went to high school two to three times a week.
Each class I listened carefully, watched how she cued, learned a lot about aerobic endurance, interval training, speed work and hill riding. I studied her body language and the way she took control of the room during the drills she taught.
I daydreamed of someday teaching spinning classes just like her.
And so after over 500 day dreams and a bit of a let down (when I got to college and took the sub-par classes) I decided to make it happen.
I enrolled in the year long course to be a fitness instructor and got spinning certified.
By my senior year of college I was training the women’s sport teams in interval rides during their off seasons, ninety minute rides for the triathlon team and regular 45 minute classes two to three times a week.
Where were you in your last daydream? What did you see? Where were you headed? What were you wearing?
Take a second and think about where your mind goes when you daydream at work.
That place you go to when you aren’t actually reading your emails, or while you mindlessly scroll through your newsfeed.
For me it is usually similar places.
Lately I like to go skiing or hiking in Snowmass, I will daydream about my deadlifts, about trips I want to take or where I want my business to be in a week, six months or five years.
I think we all do.
The trick is figuring out how to actually physically go to that place in real life existence.
Be for we dig into how you can #dowhatyoudream let’s think about what types of things you daydream about a bit further.
You think about hanging out with your friends and taking cool trips. Maybe you daydream about run-ins with the opposite sex— you see them asking you out, flirting with you; you imagine running into them at a bar or seeing them at the gym.
You imagine another job — aka you “dream job;” you see yourself in a different work environment, having a job wherein you work from anywhere, or you imagine yourself out on the road traveling or at a different office.
Physical appearance daydreams
You ponder a different body type or fashion style— you day dream of buying those new, oh-so-fashionable espadrilles you saw another woman wearing; you see yourself rocking that new bikini, or you imagine yourself doing unassisted pull-ups on your own.
The good news about all of these day dreams is that they are positive in nature; they are forward thinking; they involve visualization.
We all know visualization is important— but really honing in on the skill of visualization is key in carrying out the #dowhatyoudream mantra.
When you daydream you are precise; you imagine the little details.
When someone tells your to visualize yourself doing the routine, practicing for the work presentation, or picture yourself “being successful” we too often come back to reality whether it’s due to nerves or simply trying to picture our real life.
I have a theory: if you can put visualization and daydreaming as one and the same in your brain, you will be able to start doing what you dream.
Here are three examples of how you could #dowhatyourdream
1. You want to start traveling more.
Every day you feel like you are inundated with facbook friends’ weekend getaway photos, summer vacation extravaganzas and honeymoon photos meanwhile you are stuck in a cube, in a high rise, at a gym training people all day or in school teaching kindergarteners.
You crave escape.
How do you quench the thirst? How do you take that daydream of you on the beach and make it happen?
- do your research: are there any parks in driving distance which you can explore? What are the “must-sees” in your town or region. Play tourist this weekend and simply getaway
- search groupon and start saving: hone in on that daydream… is a beach? Is it a mountain? What do you see when you getaway in your head? Go online and start looking for deals that fit your daydream… that is step one. Once you find right deal either save it and think on it for a week, or lock it down and set a timeline for when you will book the flight, hotel, rental car etc and start SAVING for it.
- find a friend or a group to plan a trip with: accountability is key. If you have other people that are all planning to do the same trip you will keep each other on task when it comes to actually carrying out the travel details and fine tuning the big trip. The more in advance you start to plan it the more you have time to daydream (visualize) everything you want to happen on the trip and make it the perfect experience.
- Get the ball rolling: it is very coming to start planning your next trip while you are on your current one. Just like any time you crush a goal, when you finally take that trip you are proving to yourself you are capable of doing it and you will already be hungry to travel more, see more sights and do more! Self-efficacy is key! Even if the first trip is just a short little day trip to a neighboring town- do it! (And take photos, eat fun foods and play tourist).
Personal Story: Colorado is my favorite state. I knew I wanted to see what it was like to live there. In a yoga class one summer on vacation I met an kick ass lady who ran the marketing for the Town of Snomass in Colorado.
I got her card and held onto it like it was a a winning lottery ticket.
For an entire year I kept reaching out, making sure she still needed and intern for the coming year. I researched where I could stay etc. I applied for the program and got in.
After that summer I yearned to go back every year.
Now there’s not a year that I don’t visit at least twice; it just takes a LOT of planning and buying tickets ahead of time.
Honestly, it’s weird buying a plane ticket for a future month when you aren’t quite sure of what will be going on then. However, when you’re truly passionate about something–nothing else matters because it’s is the priority; you plan for the priority.
2) Dreaming of having a different job.
What do you think about doing?
Is it that you wish you could work for yourself, or a different company?
Are either of those options for you?
The cool part is anyone can start their own business.
Whether it is starting a lemonade stand, selling makeup for MaryKay on the side or starting a website, the barriers to entry are not as high as you might think.
Would a website work for you? Do you like to write?
There are several ways to either start your own business or at least get yourself in a prime position to start one. Find an online space, share good information and put yourself in the light of an expert in whatever field you are passionate about. People will reach out.
- Build a platform: If you have recipes to share, exercises to explore, expertise to give— start your own website or blog. The trick is to make sure you have “consulting tab,” an “ask me” or “contact” tab, this way people know your shop is open!
- Create the illusion that you are open as a business: even if you may not feel ready, this is the first step. If you are gung-ho about starting an online business, after you file your business/ LLC you will have people reaching out an making inquiries that you can chat with! Waste no time!
Some people start websites simply to remote their own work or music without selling anything. However, having that space online is indispensable because any can reach out if they like what they see.
- Imagine your ideal website or what you would feature… then go do it! All you real need is the ability to use Word Press!
- Get on LinkedIn and start sending out resumes. Even if you aren’t ready to leave your job tomorrow (or so you think) you never know what is out there; As soon as you put yourself out there you open up doors. Anyone can find you and contact you (outside of work hours obviously) and potentially make you a better offer.
Personal Story: I was showering last fall and felt a deep sadness like I was missing something. I sat their and tried to imagine exactly what I wished I could be doing instead of my current job. I dreamed of running my own business; I knew I was passionate about helping people. I had the certifications I needed to be a nutrition coach. I turned the shower off, grabbed my towel and my cell phone. I quickly made an instagram saying that I was “taking three new nutrition clients” and ran to my computer to add a “consulting” tab to my website. Boom! Open for shop.
3) You Dream of Getting in Shape
A lot of us want a better body i.e. a bigger booty, a smaller waist size, stronger muscles and more. The cool part is that you can actually make that happen so long as you have goals and set a strategic plan!
For beginners my best advice is to not jump into everything all at once.
If you want to lose weight, start by putting your nutrition first.
This is best done by first committing to a small change for a week; and after each successful week, trying a new change the next week. Do that for four weeks.
- drink 1 liter of water by noon every day
- add in one protein filled snack each day
- add veggies into to of your meals a day
- subtract one alcoholic beverage from your week
- subtract one meal eaten out or on-the-go and prepare it at home
Another tip– read my Fat Loss Jumpstarter Kit :)
Seriously, work on coming up with some sort of plan. Once you visualize the goal, and you set a plan (via this article, or the Fat Loss ebook), then you are able to follow the program and see measurable results.
Understand that it takes patience; putting forth consistent effort is the hardest part of the process. You have to show up every day.
The sooner you take actionable steps with measurable outcomes you will understand if the program works for you.
Give it time, stay consistent and revel over the little things (like trying a new vegetable, learning a new skill with kettlebells, getting and extra hour of sleep, or making it through that spin class).
I truly believe that daydreaming is akin to visualization and the two go hand-in-hand. Most of us feel visualization is more of a real-life exercise while day dreaming is often referred to as being “off in la-la land.”
Not the case.
Reflect on your day dreams and start to visualize them more clearly. Decide what category they fall into and make some plans! Take some action!
The fact that you day dream doesn’t mean you are lazy and unfocused; it means you have a vision.
Take that vision and run with it.
The world is yours.